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Sil Lai Abrams is a NABJ award-winning New York City based writer, inspirational speaker, domestic violence awareness activist, and relationship expert for the online version of EBONY magazine. Her passionate belief in the transformative power of greater self-awareness and personal accountability is the motivating force behind her work to empower others to create empowered lives, healthier relationships and end violence against women and children.


Sil Lai's first book, No More Drama: Nine Simple Steps to Transforming a Breakdown into a Breakthrough vividly illustrates the SEPIA Process, a step by step method of self-inquiry that she created which empowers you to positively respond to life challenges. She is currently working on her second book (to be published by Karen Hunter Publishing/Simon & Schuster), a memoir entitled Passing Strangely: A Black Woman's Search for Identity. Passing Strangely is based upon her 2011 EBONY magazine piece of the same name. 


Sil Lai has appeared on ABC, FOX, BET, Court TV, and TruTV as an expert on relationships and domestic violence, and been featured in many national magazines including Oprah, Redbook, EBONY, Black Enterprise and Sister 2 Sister. Her inspirational life story and practical spiritually-based advice has helped Sil Lai become a highly sought after public speaker and workshop facilitator, with the Federal Bureau of Investigation, the National Medical Association, Harvard University, and Dress for Success being just a few of the distinguished organizations that have used her speaking services. Sil Lai has also been featured in the Pine-Sols Powerful Difference campaign, a national cause marketing effort that celebrates women making a positive difference in their communities. 


In addition to her professional activities, Sil Lai is an active supporter of organizations that combat domestic violence. She is the founder of TruthInReality.org, a grassroots media advocacy organization committed to reducing the rates of intimate partner abuse in our communities by changing the way women and interpersonal violence are portrayed on reality television. Sil Lai also serves on the Board of Directors for Safe Horizon, the nation's largest provider of services for victims of crime and violence, the National Advisory Board of the National Domestic Violence Hotline, and the Board of Governors for the National Council on Family Violence. She resides in Brooklyn, New York and is the proud parent of two children.